When Laurice died I did it right. She was diagnosed with osteosarcoma after a painful bump came up on her leg. Every single day something special happened for her from diagnosis to death. I had started that with Rufus when he went into liver failure but missed some days. As a palliative foster parent we have had more chances than many people to figure out how to say - I love you, I value you, you are special to us.
- Go somewhere they enjoy alone with them. Even just sitting in a favourite park can be a pleasure.
- Do a short, slow version of a treasured walk.
- Sit outside a store and be admired.
- Go somewhere they enjoy with the family. Even if all they feel up to is watching a younger dog play they'll enjoy it.
- Brush them gently in their favourite places.
- Find some sun and sit in it together.
- Visit a pet friendly store.
- Pick a BRAND new toy out and take it home with you.
- Let go of some rules. Maybe they can lick a plate after meals? Get on your bed? You know your rules and your canine. Make it special.
- Find a puddle they can lie in if they love to swim but can't anymore.
- Make a huge and very comfy bed for them for the times getting on a couch or the bed is too hard.
- Invite their human friends over for a visit.
- Go visit favourite humans, trainers, vets, groomer - whoever makes your dog happy.
- Go visit favourite non human friends or invite them over.
- Go through a McDonald's drive through and order them a plain cheeseburger, or chicken nuggets.
- Go through Timmies and get them a tim bit.
- Take them through the drive through with you.
- Read them a story
- Share an ice cream cone.
- Tell them stories about when they were young.
- Find someone who can do a reiki session for them. (or play, gently, with their energy fields yourself)
- If they are up to it and would enjoy it book a swim for them.
- Make a little extra of your breakfast and share it.
- Try making special dog treats yourself - with your dogs favourite ingredients.
- Make a little extra lunch and share it.
- Turn an extra heater on in winter, or an extra fan on them in summer. Let them be super super comfy.
- Make a little extra of your dinner and share it.
- Make sure you leave them, even if it's not for long, so they can have the joy of welcoming you home.
- Laugh with them.
- Cup their chin in the palm of your hand and connect with them..
- Give them a puppy pad or other indoor place to potty if they simply can't hold it anymore.
- Cry with them.
- When you get frustrated or sad explain why to them and let it go.
- Learn a couple of TTOUCH moves and practise them with your dog. (I love raccon personally)
- Book a massage for them.
- Sit quietly with them in a peaceful place watching the birds or squirrels or whatever.
- Make a fun ritual of medication time - premack the meds with something awesome. Pills and shots predict GREATNESS!
- Make a video or slide show of your favourite clips of them.
- Share your clip with friends - and tell your dog all the great things they say.
- Go for a drive to see something new - cows? horses? a waterfall?
- Teach them a new trick
- Watch animal shows on tv with them.
- Review an old favourite trick.
- Pat and scratch them their favourite ways not the easy ways.
- Brush up on a trained skill.
- Have a photo shoot - pro or friend with props and silly stuff .
- Look into their eyes and smile or make your mutally favourite face.
- Let them lick you if they love to do so.
- Feed them an extra meal in a day.
and of course
50. Tell them you love them when you awaken, when you go to sleep and a million times in between.
love this list!
Beautiful, beautiful post... #20 got the faucet running for me...
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